One problem I've had was which major to choose and what I wanted to do with myself as a career. Internally, I felt like I was being churned up. I had a hard time finding congruence. It didn’t help that I really wasn’t in tune with who I really was back then, 10 years ago, either. Another problem I had is my x-husband that was cheating on me. That was extremely difficult to face. It was difficult to find congruence then, too. Mostly because I always told myself that if that ever happened to me, it would be the end of my marriage. I was determined not to get divorced. I fought my inner sentences that kept saying, “You can get this right” and “You can make this work”. Another problem I’ve had is trying to find where I belong in church. I’ve felt on the outside, like a disease. It was hard to feel like I belonged with the people in my religion, who promote eternal marriage and I trashed my eternal marriage. The pattern that I see is this sentence that says, “If I sacrifice enough, I will be of worth.” That was my old sentence, which still flares up now and then. My new sentence that I work hard to run with is, “I am.”